My girl has just come back from a 4 days/3 nights school trip abroad. She is 7 years old. She is in first grade. 60+ first graders, from many different cultural backgrounds, on a short trip to France (from Germany): I didn't even ask her if she wanted to go. I signed!
And then, I got reminded by many friends and other parents around the school that this was not at all a given for many parents.
In my youth, I spent many summers at camps kayaking, climbing and I loved it. Even though there was always a hint of sadness at being away from home, it was always great fun and I still have very fond memories of it. With school, I also went on several school trips abroad. A trip to the Alps, at 10 years old, 'snow class' as we call it in France (classe de neige), even lasted 3 weeks. I was pretty used to leaving home and my parents entrusted my care to many outsiders. I also, later, worked many summer jobs as a camp counsellor. I was in charge of 6-12 year olds for up to 3 weeks at the time. I loved it.
So, for me, an overnight school trip is no big deal.
When I posted this picture last week of my girl going away on my Instagram feed, many people said they wouldn't be able to do it. Take a look at the comments (click on the image).
Today my girl left for 4 days abroad with her school. 60+ first graders (6/7 years old) on their first solo adventure (for many). I love how independent she is becoming. I love how independence is so important in German-style parenting. I loved seeing little Asian, Indian, American, German, Polish, French kids going on this adventure all together. I love our school. And oh how I love their teachers for this amazing opportunity. What about you? Would you leave your 6/7 year old go on an overnight trip abroad with school? How normal is it where you are? . . . . . #childhoodunplugged #nothingisordinary #letthembelittle #candidchildhood #freerangekids #momswithcameras #lifecloseup #mommylife #our_everyday_moments #theartofbeingamother #playmatters #captureplay #clickinmoms #pretendplay #childrenoftheworld #instamoms #mkbkids #runwildmychild #neverstopexploring #traveltuesday #lifeingermany #livingingermany
It really got me thinking about something that I take for granted but that other cultures may not.
Tuesday morning, 7am: my baby girl, all packed up and ready to go with her backpack, her brand new jacket and her suitcase. We meet up with Brazilian, Indian, Chinese, Danish, American, English, Italian, German families (and others I may have forgotten). First big trip for these 60+ little 6/7 year olds. Many have never been away from home for more than a night. It is fun seeing all these nationalities, all of these parents handling these situations. Some have packed for a month (instead of 4 days), some have winter gloves, hats and boots on, others are wearing light spring jackets. Some parents keep asking the teachers to take pictures with their kids. Some climb on-board the bus with their child to make sure they fasten their seat belt and take one last picture. Some hand over instructions to the teachers. Others give big hugs and kisses. Others cannot wait to rush to work. I am loving our international school for the reminders that we are all doing what we think is best for our children even though we are all handling this very very differently.
Yet, we have all signed up to this idea that independence, often valued in European, and in particular German, culture and parenting, is what matters here. We all trust our children to behave and be grown up enough to spend 3 nights without us. We all trust these teachers, we have known for 7 months, to take good care of our precious babies.
Trust - this is what it comes down to. We trust the teachers to take care of our kids all day long, teach them to read and write and teach them many other valuable skills. Why not trust them to take our kids away for 4 days? Have we ever stopped to think the responsibility this is for teachers? They do not sign up for these trips lightly. They take a trip to the location once before in most cases. They have to prepare for every eventuality: illness, accident, etc. They need to prepare extra activities, think about the children 24 hours a day. They take on so many more responsibilities than if they stayed in their classroom all day. Hats off to them!
It seems this experience though is very much European and Japanese (?). In a lot of kindergartens (pre-school) in Germany, children, as young as 4 or 5, spend a night away on trips. My girl had a little camp out in the kindergarten at 5 years old. Of course, all individual schools vary yet others I spoke to would have never allowed this in their own culture (Americans, in particular). Here are a few comments from other parents around the world:
- In France, kids go away for residential trips for up to 5 days from as young as 4-5 (in maternelle, moyenne & grande section) though it's not that common. By primary age 6, it's very normal to have "classe verte", "classe de neige" etc for up to 2 weeks! - Phoebe
- In Ireland: no such thing until well into secondary school as past of a language exchange thing. - Indra
- In Canada kids go to overnight camp from Grade 4 as part of the school curriculum. It's usually 3-4 nights. Parents can elect to send their kids to summer camp that is many days or even weeks long. That starts from Grade 2. - Puneeta
- My daughter's 5th grade class went on a camping trip for several nights. Usually 5th grade or higher is the typical age here in the US for overnight trips. - Amanda
- Growing up in Brazil, my first overnight trip was in 4th grade, but other schools did not have overnight trips until 6th or 7th grade. - Patricia
- In Poland these trips start in 1rd grade of Primary School (7 year olds). My son has been away for a weekend with his scouts' group, this summer he's going away for 2 weeks. None of this happened in Venezuela where my husband went to school and he freaked out a little in the beginning, but now he's fine with the whole thing. - Hanna
- In Spain, my girls went overnight when they were 4 and for two nights when they were 5 (Kindergarten)! - Patricia
- Growing up in India camping wasn't part of the regular school curriculum. Kids used to go overnight camping though as part of Scouts and Guides, starting from Class 4 or 5. - Puneeta
- I did private school in Ecuador and overnight trips started in fifth grade. - Linda
One mum wrote about her experience in Japan and letting her daughter go on an overnight trip at 5 years old. It is worth a read.
I never thought France was particularly advanced when it came to school trips! One more reason French parenting is great! Aren't these cultural differences just fascinating? A lot of parents reported their kids going away for a night with scout groups but not with teachers. Why not? Why all these fears? Why are we not trusting these teachers enough? Lisa Ferland wrote this a few weeks back and it totally applies here too:
"Why all of the legal consent? Why is there such a fear of pedophilia in a controlled environment with teachers who see your kids every day? Why all of the hassle and trouble? Why the lack of trust?
Is it all based on fear and paranoia? Why are parents entrusting teachers with their kids’ lives during the day in a closed school environment but the rules magically change during a field trip?"
I am, personally, so glad to be raising my children in this environment where trust is not an issue. We get to know the teachers, we trust them. They are doing an amazing job teaching our kids.
As the bus left, parents from all nationalities and all cultural backgrounds waved. All felt a sense of relief and a little bit of nervousness. We are human. They are our babies. But the relief, the joy, the love, the pride when we started receiving those little pictures of their activities made up for all these mixed feelings. The little tired but smiling faces running down the bus for a big hug on Friday told me we were doing it right.
What about you? Would you do it? Would you send your child away for 4 days at the age of seven? Did you do it as a child?