One thing living in different countries has taught me is that safety is not only personal but also clearly cultural. As soon as we moved to Germany, we discovered that, as opposed to the UK, Germany is clearly not as health and safety crazy. And, for me, this is a good thing.Playgrounds and children-related issues are the best example of this. Here, sand pits are everywhere and kids play bare feet in them when the weather allows it. Cat and dog litter trays? Open gates between the school playground and the nearby (obviously opened) public playground are common. Kids potentially walking off during recess? Rough wooden structures full of sharp angles have not been taken over by plastic. Splinters? Marble tracks, hammer and nails in kindergartens are well known activities. Choking or hitting dangers?
In a discussion with other expat mums, I discovered that some young mums were horrified at some of these dangers and even refused their child's access to some of these activities/facilities because of the potential accidents. When my daughter was 18 months old she started attending a little playgroup with about 10 kids and 2 adults supervising twice a week for a few hours. The said playgroup had a marble track and a little basket of marbles. I never batted an eyelid about it until other expat mums refused to put their kids in the said playgroup because of the marbles.The playgroup has actually very few expat kids. About 90% of the children there are German. And I assume no German parent ever complained or raised an eyebrow about it as the playgroup is run by parents.
|Aren't marble tracks awesome? Pic by B. Sawyer via Flickr.|
And I suddenly realised that, even if we all have different parenting styles (even within one culture), safety and danger is really engrained in a culture. Just like this mum's reaction to the Dutch parenting style.
In Switzerland and Germany, it is common to let young children have a knife (think Swiss army knife) to play outdoors, forage, cut leaves and branches etc. In Germany, there are kindergartens where 3-6 year olds spend the whole day everyday outdoors. Come rain, hail, snow, they spend their time in the forest. This is actually called a forest kindergarten. I think both these examples are pretty unthinkable in a lot of nearby nations.
When we registered for our current place at kindergarten, we had to specify whether we would let our child go home alone. Now, she was barely 3 at the time, so there was no question about the answer! But the oldest kids there are 6. Do you know a lot of cities (we do not live in a village) where schools would let their 6 year olds make their way home alone? That shocked me more than letting small kids play with a marble track or hammering nails because I assume there is some kind of supervision for the other activities, just like there is at playgrounds.
German kids do not die more than other kids because they choke on marbles or fall off high structures in playgrounds. Different cultures see aspects of safety differently and we, maybe, parent our children differently as a consequence. "As in most cultural matters, there is no right or wrong way of doing things. There are just different ways." S.G.